Dating sites: should you give a second chance?

If in the recent past, you have had a disappointing first experience via an online dating site, do not be discouraged. By trying the experience again, you will find a site that will best match your expectations and on which you will meet a person made for you. However, you will have to follow certain rules of conduct from the choice of the dating site to the real meeting. Here are some tips and practical advice to find your soul mate online.

Choose a serious dating site

The choice of a dating site is of crucial importance. but very often most are not suitable for the search for a lasting relationship. Some dating sites are indeed made up of members who only want to have a one-night stand or a friend. On others, bad surprises such as fake profiles, scams, or high subscription costs are commonplace.

For these reasons, do you doubt the reliability of online dating sites? You can consult comparisons to have a different opinion on Parship, Elite Rencontre,and other serious dating sites in France. These comparisons and opinions will thus help you choose a dating site on which you will invest yourself again in a romantic relationship. Keep in mind that this site must offer meetings for long-term relationships. You must also pay attention to the age group of the members, the size and characteristics of the community as well as the prices and packages offered by the site.

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Make your dating site profile captivating

Your profile is studied by any member who is interested in you or to whom you send a request. So take care with the information provided and do not lie about your personality. Provide as much detail as possible:

  • your interests,
  • your aspirations and tendencies,
  • your job,
  • your lifestyle,
  • your age,
  • your partner’s style,
  • your living area…

All this can be gathered according to the site in a description in the form of text (biography) or given by following a form. If it is a biography, write a clear, original, concise text, without mistakes which makes the desire to send you a message. Add, to have a complete profile, a recent and attractive photo of yourself, or several photos in different situations if possible.

Engage in positive discussions with members who match your criteria

Even if you choose a good dating site, having a profile that best details your personality is not enough to find your soulmate. You need to engage in deep discussions with members who seem compatible with you. Any online relationship is indeed built around messages, photos, videos, phone calls, etc. Discuss your common points, what you like, your passions, etc., to strengthen the relationship.

Don’t be shy and start the conversation when the moment is right by asking the right questions, open questions that imply concrete answers. So there is no point in asking questions like “Is it nice where you live?”. Don’t forget to compliment your interlocutor or make positive remarks about an answer. Also, allow him to ask questions or start a question-and-answer game that will allow everyone to get involved in the conversation.

Be respectful, sincere, natural, and clear about your intentions. However, despite the affinities you might notice between you and your virtual lover, do not give out details or personal information such as your home address or credit card number.

Schedule real-life meetings at the right time

After some time spent chatting online, plan a real meeting. There is no ideal time to do it, it can be after a week or a month, but the important thing is that you are both ready and willing to do this one-on-one. Choose a time when you are both free, preferably a weekend, so that you can take your time to get to know each other better. Arrange the meeting in a café, restaurant, or any other public place.

To be on the safe side, tell someone close to you about your meeting and give them as much information as possible about your virtual partner. Even if you seem to know each other, you are still going to meet a stranger.

What behaviors should be avoided during a first meeting?

For a first meeting, do not wear a sloppy or uncomfortable outfit, because appearance is the first thing your interlocutor will focus on. Be sober, but elegant. Avoid being late for the meeting and especially not bringing a loved one with you (friend, child, brother, sister, etc.). Always keep the same atmosphere as during online exchanges and be relaxed. Avoid broaching boring and controversial subjects, or the story of the meeting with your ex. Above all, turn off your phone so as not to frustrate your interlocutor. Do not only talk about yourself and do not rush things, let the alchemy do its work.

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